My dad

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DebA
Posts: 1941
Joined: Tue May 04, 2010 7:43 am
Location: Pratt County/Kansas
Martin Colony History: Start 2009 with one pair. Upgraded from S&K houses to two Trendsetter 12's with gourds beneath in 2013. I have experienced job, pet, and parental losses since '13. The Purple Martins lift my spirits and remind me how life continues forward by flying their little selves from Brazil back to my yard. As one forum person once told me, chin up DebA, look at the martins. Danger all around but yet they soar in the sky without a care in the world.

Hi martin friends. My dad passed away yesterday. He was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer last October.

Not quite two years ago my management position was eliminated at our local hospital. When it became clear to me what was happening dad was my first call. I needed a plan. My parents travel craft shows. I joined them fulltime in the little family business. He and I traveled together almost every weekend and talked nearly everyday several times on the phone. I was his side kick as his health was failing. Which is fitting becsuse years ago this tomboy followed him everywhere on our farm.

I realized his love of birds these past two years. He never hosted purple martins but he loved my stories. Although he'd give me grief for not making jelly when I was working so hard last spring to take care of my martins in the ice and snow.

Recently I'd sit with him during chemo and pull up the scout report. He loved seeing it. My dad came into my life at age 5. He was a step parent that was as close to biological you can get. Not once do I remember feeling the difference. At life's end he became my coworker and best friend. I thank God my job ended. What a gift to be with my dad. Bring on the martins next month. I need them. With them they show how life carries on.

Deb
PMCA MEMBER
Pratt County, Kansas
2016 34 PAIR
2015 27 PAIR
2014 23 PAIR
2013 13 PAIR
2012 6 PAIR
2011 4 PAIR
2010 2 PAIR
2009 1 PAIR
JL Murray

Deb i am very sorry to hear of your Dad having passed i know from reading your posts how much he meant to you and you to him, and you are both blessed to have been in each others lives, i pray that you find some peace and comfort in your sorrow knowing that he is in a better place, Your dad was a great example of how many other dads ought to be.... You were both very blessed!

Your Dad was living proof of something i have always told my Daughter (step daughter)....That you do not have to be in a persons bloodline to be in their heart.
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Dave Reynolds
Posts: 1921
Joined: Mon Jan 31, 2011 4:35 pm
Location: Little Hocking, Oh.
Martin Colony History: 2018 Success at my Satellite Site “Oxbow Golf Course”.
2019 Success at my home Site "Little Hocking, Ohio".

DebA --- Sorry for you loss, but keep those memories close, that way your Dad will always be in your heart. There is nothing in this world better then to be able to spend time with our parents in their later years. I did as my father passed away, and have never regreted a minute of time he gave to me.
We are with you through this time with our thought and prays.

Dave
Home Site “Little Hocking, Ohio”
2010 / 2018 -- Lots of Visitors
2019 — 1 Pair, 5 Eggs, 5 Babies, 5 fledged. :wink:
2020 — 1 Pair, 4 Eggs, 4 Babies, 4 fledged. :wink:
2021 — Waiting on March 2021

Satellite Site “Oxbow Golf Course”
2018 -- 15 Pair, 58 Eggs, 38 Hatched and 36 Fledged :wink:
2019 — 26 Pair, 128 Eggs, 99 Babies and 97 Fledged. :wink:
2020 — 30 Pair, 156 Eggs, 137 Babies and 137 Fledged. :wink:
2021 — Waiting on March 2021

PMCA Member
Louise Chambers
Site Admin
Posts: 6208
Joined: Tue Nov 04, 2003 1:07 pm
Location: Corpus Christi, TX

My sympathies to you & your family, Deb. I think what you said about the martins is beautifully put:
With them they show how life carries on.
That's something all of us can appreciate along with you.
4th Gen Martin Fan
Posts: 1492
Joined: Thu Jul 04, 2013 1:19 pm
Location: TN/Collierville
Martin Colony History: I have been exposed to purple martin sounds in utero when my mother went out to get my father away from his martin colony.
I played around the martin colony every summer and watched as my father maintained his colony. In the late 50's until the 70's he did not notice European Starlings in south Texas.
When old enough, I helped maintain his colony. My primary task was eliminating English House Sparrows with a 1956 Benjamin 317 .177 air rifle.
When I settled into my own home, I started my first colony with an original Trio Castle and Trio Grandpa. When I moved again, I did not put up any martin houses. Frustration with European Starlings in the Southeast US was overwhelming.
Found PMCA Forum and learned about modern enlarged compartments and SREHs.
Inherited my father's last martin house, a Trio Grandma, modified it to modern specifications and have had good results since then.

Deb,
I am sorry that your Dad passed yesterday. I am glad that his pain and suffering are over now. It sounds like he fought the good fight to the end.
We know that he will always be in your heart. In a small way he will live on in our heart also. I know that we did not all get to know him personally but we have read and known him through your posts.
I wish I could send my martins to you so that you can fill your colony to the max this year. I will not have any more than 4 pair because of my small martin house, but I know that you deserve them.
Mark.
Mark.
Firm believer in HOSP/EUST Control, Enlarged Compartments, SREHs, Pole Predator Guards, Owl/Hawk Guards, Mite/Parasite Control, Housing Insulation, and Vents for Compartment Cooling.
PMCA Member.
KathyF
Posts: 3521
Joined: Thu May 24, 2007 1:57 pm
Location: Missouri/Licking
Martin Colony History: Colony started - 2007 with one pair
As of 2018 - 84 cavities offered, max # of pairs hosted - 82.

Deb, I am so sorry to hear this. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
"Sometimes", said Pooh, "the smallest things take up the most room in your heart."
2016 - 82 pair
2015 - 76 pair
2014 - 75 pair
2013 - 75 pair
2012-72 pair
http://kathyfreeze.blogspot.com
Ed Pace
Posts: 669
Joined: Tue Feb 08, 2011 3:31 pm
Location: NY/Jamestown

Deb: So sorry for your loss, sounds like you have many beautiful memories to charish for ever. Our deepest sympathies are with you.
Ed and Mona
~Ray~Gingerich
Posts: 2122
Joined: Mon Jan 05, 2004 10:24 pm
Location: Delaware/Dover

Sorry for your loss... may you find peace and comfort
~Ray~ Gingerich
1999 1pair, 2006 2 pair, 2008 2 pair,
2009 23 pair, 2010 39 pair, 2011 67 pair,
2012 115 pair, 2013 160 pair,
2014 152 pair, 2015 174 pair, 2016 178 pair
2017 187 pair, 2018 200 pair, 2019 171pair
2020 233 pair
LoneOakMartins
Posts: 166
Joined: Wed Apr 20, 2011 12:05 pm
Location: Lone Oak, TX

Deb, I so very sorry for your loss. Sounds like a wonderful man.
2014 - 50 pair, 206 eggs, 179 fledge
2013 - 36 pair, 176 eggs, 148 fledge
2012 - 8 pair, 21 eggs, 15 fledge
2011 - 6 pair, 15 eggs, 11 fledge
Doug Martin - PA
Posts: 1920
Joined: Thu Mar 25, 2004 10:47 am
Location: Pennsylvania/Fombell
Martin Colony History: First pair in 2009 after 28 years of trying. 3 pairs 2010, 17 pairs 2011 and 35-45 pairs since. Many additional colonies are now springing up around mine in an area once completely void of Martins. I offer 50 compartments at my site consisting of primarily Excluder II gourds on Gemini racks. Also a wooden T-14. I utilize electric fence type predator guards on the base of the poles. Supplemental feeding is crucial in maintaining my colony. I platform feed throughout the season as needed. My site tends to be a stop over point for additional birds as they migrate further north.

Deb,

So sorry to hear of your loss. I pray that you will find comfort in the memories that you have shared with your father. We all have to lose loved ones.

Seems that only passing time heals the emptiness and the sorrow. Your Purple Martins should remind you that although they depart and leave emptiness, they are still out there somewhere still soaring the skies. We just can't see them anymore.

It is only a matter of time till we see them once again. Your father remains in your heart and soul. Nothing can ever change that.

Doug
Supplemental feeding plays a major role in western Pennsylvania. Finally got my 1st pair in 2009 after 28 years of effort. 3 pairs in 2010. 17 pairs in 2011. 35 pairs and 150 young in 2012 & 2013. Plus a new 22 pair colony right down the road from me.
daveh
Posts: 662
Joined: Wed Oct 22, 2008 7:40 am
Location: Kingsville Mo.

Deb So sorry for your loss. It is so very important to spend time with mom and dad in their later years. We are doing that now with my parents. They truly enjoy seeing the family. I'm sure your dad enjoyed being with you. Again, we are sorry for your loss of a parent.

dave
PMCA member
Archer
Posts: 760
Joined: Fri Mar 11, 2011 1:09 pm
Location: Manitoba/Altona
Martin Colony History: six pair in 2014, have grown to 52 pairs in 2017.

"Bring on the Martins" is right, we all need them, just like we need each other. You are blessed to have such a great relationship with your Dad!
Know that you are loved here, and in our hearts we share your loss. I do not post often but come here everyday to read and learn. I look forward to you posts and appreciate your style. You make a difference in our lives.
God is faithful, he knows we need spring, and all that it brings. It will soon be here.

Allan
2011- first year trying, a few visitors.
2012-One ASY pair, raised two young, lots of subby visitors. So thankfull.
2013-daily subby visits.
2014-Six SY pairs
2015-18 pair, 83 fledglings
2016-36 pair, 147 fledglings
2017-52 pairs, 192 fledglings.
2018-60 pair, 246 fledglings.
2019-59 pair, 238 fledglings.
2020-62 pair.
Matt F.
Posts: 3903
Joined: Mon Feb 28, 2005 9:48 am
Location: Houston, TX

I'm so sorry for your loss Deb.
I lost mine a few years ago - my heart really goes out to you.
jojo92
Posts: 90
Joined: Tue May 04, 2010 7:43 am
Location: Ohio ,Fairfield

Sorry to hear about your loss
2010=none
2011=none
2012=1 asy Male
2013=3 pair
2014=5 pair- 9 fledged
2015=8 pair -13 fledged
phldave
Posts: 514
Joined: Fri Jun 15, 2012 2:44 pm
Location: Iowa/Pleasant Hill
Martin Colony History: Started trying in 2012 and still trying

Deb,

I am so sorry for your loss. Your story is proof there is a higher power involved, by how you and your dad were pulled back together during this time. I truly hope you find peace knowing your dad is now with that higher power.

Dave
2012 late start
2013 nothing yet, lots a lookers
2014 Bust again
2015 Bust again
2016 Bust again
2017 Bust again
2018 April 14 a group joined me, but moved on after a week
2019 Had SY male seriously check me out but didn't stay
birdy girl
Posts: 1179
Joined: Wed Apr 19, 2006 9:09 am
Location: Mississippi/Dumas

Deb,
So sorry you lost your dad. I know it was difficult watching your dad's health deteriorate. I lost my parents to cancer several years ago, so I do understand the loss you feel. I know the time you spent with your dad will be memories you will cherish now and years to come.
klcretired
Posts: 2174
Joined: Tue Nov 18, 2003 3:06 am
Location: Grand Prairie,Tx

I'm so sorry for your loss Deb. I lost mine in 1996 and it still Hurts- my heart goes out to you.and your Family
Pictures Taken with Canon Rebel XT Digital using a Sigma 50-500 Long Lens.

Wishing everyone a Great Martin Year
Happy Martining for 2020 to everyone,

K.C.

klcretired@tx.rr.com
Annie G
Posts: 341
Joined: Thu Aug 02, 2007 3:09 pm
Location: Wisconsin/Portage

Deb...I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. My dad passed away in Dec so I can relate to your feelings. My dad bought me my first martin house when I was 7 and I loved him for it. Dads can have very special meanings in our lives and I'm sure he will live on in your heart, along with your memories. Annie
Keep trying and keep your chin up, its easier to see the martins coming!!
tonyg
Posts: 1520
Joined: Fri Feb 27, 2009 4:16 pm
Location: Olpe, KS
Martin Colony History: 22 year landlord, 14 at current residence..offering 9 racks and a homemade T-8 for 166 total cavities. 160 Pair in 2018 Racks consist of a Deluxe 12, AAA 16, Starburst 16, 2 K-18 Series, Super 24, 2 Gemini, Multi-purpose/two trio’s/4gourds and a T-8..Great hobby to be involved in..

So sorry for the passing of your dad.. Thoughts and prayers are with your family..
22 year landlord..9 Rack Systems for 2018 and my home built T-8 for a total of 166 cavities..160 pair in 2018 ..SUPER COLONY!!! Love You Bev... Fan of those St. Louis Cardinals!!!!!
dhjohnson
Posts: 478
Joined: Thu Jan 26, 2012 4:24 pm
Location: North Carolina/Clayton
Martin Colony History: 5th year hostess. Currently 58 confirmed breeding pair. 218 Fledged, 35 older nestlings, 2 new nests with 8 nestlings. 100% occupancy

Deb,
So very sorry for your loss. He sounds like a remarkable person and one people would remember if they met. My Dad has been gone 14 years and I still wish I could talk things over with him. We still talk through prayers! Remember the glad times and fellowship they will remain precious memories! I'm sure your martins will indeed comfort you and you will undoubtedly take care of them! Best wishes for a successful martin season!
Our thoughts and prayers are with you!
Debbie
Debbie Johnson
Clayton/NC (Archer Lodge)
2012 New Site 6 pair, 21 Fledged
2013 24 pair, 102 eggs, 94 hatched, 89 Fledged. What a great year!
2014 37 pair, 211 eggs, 193 Hatched, 178 Fledged, 1 nest of 5 young left! Late start but picked up speed quickly!
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